These pages are about my life-long journey into self-acceptance, size acceptance, and the realization that I am entitled to like myself no matter what my body size is and no matter WHAT anyone else thinks about me…my purpose in life is not to decorate someone else’s world.

Here you’ll find my view of what it’s like being a BBW (Big Beautiful Women) in today’s “thin is in, looks oriented, diet-obsessed, carb counting” society. You’ll also find lots of links, including ones to large-size clothing,  health issues for fat people, fat fitness, publications concerning size issues, general size acceptance and fat acceptance resources, my on-line PLUS STORE with lots of size related material, and  size-acceptance web sites on the internet.

There are interesting articles and insights, my personal favorite links, our Wedding Album (yes, my husband and I are an “internet romance success story”) and some pet peeves of mine.

In a nutshell – here’s everything you always wanted to know about me and living life as a SuperBBW but were afraid to ask! Sit back, relax and enjoy the sites.

ABOUT SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND SIZE-RIGHTS…

“Self-acceptance” and “size-rights” mean a person is not degraded, demeaned, or denied the basic rights of human existence by themselves or others because of their physical size, whether large or small.  It means being treated fairly and with the respect that any human being deserves.  It means that no matter what ANYONE thinks of me or my body, they don’t have the right to abuse me because of it.

Under no circumstances should other members of society deny someone their basic human rights based solely on their “distaste” for their physical appearance — including fair housing, a job if their talents and experience meet the qualifications, freedom from physical and mental abuse from family as well as strangers on the street, and so on.  When it happens as “racial discrimination” there is an outcry.  When it’s “size-discrimination” it’s tolerated, even encouraged.

Far too often, people outside an individual’s range of “acceptable size” , are judged to be “unhealthy” and subjected to lectures about how people are concerned about their “health” and that they should expect better.  “Concern” and “acceptance” are two very different things.  Wrongly, people think “acceptance” means giving up and not taking care of yourself.  That is FAR from the truth.  In fact, the more accepting a person is of themselves, the more likely they are to take good care of themselves.

TRUE advocates of the “self-acceptance/size-rights” school of thinking do not preach that any physical size is right and someone of another size is wrong, whether large OR small.  They do not preach that anyone should  be fat… or that anyone should be thin, nor that you should — or should not –  be attracted to any particular body type.  They believe in the tolerance of differences in people’s bodies and the belief that body size does not automatically  make someone “good” or “bad”, “right” or “wrong”, “healthy” or “unhealthy”.

Self-acceptance means not attempting to alter the size of one’s body to satisfy the demands or attitudes of others, especially to conform to their criteria for physical “beauty”.   It  means moving the body you have, eating healthy foods and NOT being a slave to a number on a scale or a clothing tag.

True advocates of the size-acceptance movement do not oppose losing weight and they don’t condemn anyone who does lose weight. Rather they oppose “dieting” for the sole goal of losing weight because in most cases, dieting does not work in the long term nor does it guarantee a state of good health.  They believe having an active lifestyle, exercising, eating nutritious foods and maintaining a steady weight, even if it’s a high weight, is healthier than striving to maintain a weight that is “artificial” for their body by “dieting” and starvation.   They’ve come to understand that losing weight is not always just a matter of “having some self-control”, and that they are not a failure or success in life because of what they weigh.

People who have achieved size/self- acceptance have substituted the endless ride on the “dieting” roller coaster with a simple three-point health sanity plan:

  1. eat a variety of truly healthy foods,
  2. be active physically because it’s fun and feels good
  3. treasure your body as it is at any given moment.

Self/size-acceptance means not putting your life on hold because you are not a Size “___” (whatever….)